crossroads woman

I got my nosed pierced in in July of 2012. It was family bonding at its best; my brother took me to his favorite tattoo parlor, held my hand and made fun of me while some stranger stabbed me in the face with the biggest needle ever created. I felt like a total badass. I remember at the time I was worried about the ramification of my actions. Would I lose clients? Would my mother-in-law faint? Would my husband ever be able to look me in the eye again? But my biggest concern was … Is this appropriate for a woman my age? I was…

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Okay friends, let’s get real. Recently I shared my desire to challenge myself in a few areas of my life, the most important of which was health and wellness. I made that a priority because I’ve been feeling lousy these past few months and frankly, I don’t like what I am seeing in the mirror anymore. I’m tired and unhealthy and I look it. For the first time in my life I’ve found myself walking instead of running, avoiding social gathering and hiding behind others in pictures. It super-sucks. And it needs to change. Immediately. I don’t want to follow this path anymore. I don’t want…

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Remember when I declared that I was working on making this year my best ever? Well, I’ve been dissecting that a bit trying to uncover what it would take for me to feel truly accomplished in 2016 and I during that process I found that my idea of  “accomplishment” has drastically changed. For quite some time career recognition has been a huge priority in my life. (Second only to being a good mom, natch.) That was pretty much it for me. I got my identity from my job and what I accomplished. And while I always want to do an excellent…

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You guys. The year is half over already! So hard to believe, right? I don’t know where the time has gone but I know that it seems to have flown by faster this year than any other. I had a recent conversation with a friend about a mid-year life check that inspired me to sit down and really think through the first few months of 2016. At first evaluation, I struggled to cite anything that I’d accomplished importance so far. Which was depressing, actually. But then I thought a little deeper and realized that I was incredibly wrong. For years now I’ve…

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I feel the need to address the elephant in the room… ME. Yes, me and my lack of updating lately on this site. I know, I know. I made this big ole announcement about how I had found my blogging voice and how I was super excited to be writing again and then I was eerily silent. I’ll spare you the sordid details but it involves travel soccer, archery lessons, white knuckling it through the end of the school year and a coworker leaving. (Good times!) I was still writing for Pursuit Of It All but not as much as…

Self Care For Beginners - 4 Easy Suggestions

In my 20s and 30s I used to brag about my invincibility. I would go non-stop and blithely pronounce to anyone who would listen that I intended to “sleep when I’m dead.” I know, I know. I was young and naive. The fact of the matter was that I rarely, if ever, took care of myself. I was always focused on goals, achievements, and meeting the excessive expectations I had of myself. I had a family to take care of! Dreams to achieve! Things to conquer! My high tolerance for discomfort meant I juggled all the balls I had in the air—but at…

4 Easy Ways To Cut Expenses While Still Enjoying Life

There is literally nothing I enjoy less than budgeting. My husband and I work together on it, and by work together I mean he budgets and I try desperately to stay within the parameters. He is terrific at making sure that bills are not only paid but also that emergency funds are stocked and that we have spending money for the fun stuff. My job is to stay out of his way. And to not whine too much about it. This year we’ve decided to do more traveling than in previous years so it is more important than ever for us to cut back and…

Breaking Up With My Hair

Confession: I’ve had the same hair style since for nearly 10 years. I didn’t realize this to be true until a few days ago. While playing around on Pinterest I came upon a picture that I knew well. It was my someday-I’ll-get-up-the-nerve-to-change-my-style picture. I’ve had it on my radar for three years and I’ve always been to scared to actually get the cut. Yes, you read that right. I was scared to cut my hair. In my defense, I’ve had this hair style for a long time. I mean, I always thought I was trendy but mostly that is because I changed the color. (A lot.)…

So you may have noticed that I took a small break from my blogging time. (Or maybe you didn’t. Who knows?) These past few months have been filled with transition for me and I needed to put my efforts into managing the change as well as I could. Which worked, by the way. It’s funny. Usually I take on a million things and juggle them all then stress about the fact that I’m not doing any of it well. I finally wised up on myself and gave me permission to drop something for awhile. And the something was blogging and…

girl squad

“Maybe our girlfriends are our soul mates and guys are just people to have fun with.” – Sex and the City Some of my fondest memories in life have been made with my girlfriends. I had an impressive girl squad before Taylor Swift made them a thing. (Err… maybe even before she was born come to think of it.)  My first “squad” was in college. Jen, Kat, Zoe and I navigated the complexities of emerging womanhood and college life together in a run down apartment in Baltimore. Through thick and thin, good times and bad, we battled term papers, heartaches, fake IDs, and 90s…