Why Won’t You LIKE Me, Damn It!?
I WANT people to like me.
Always have.
I’m what you would call a “goody-two shoes.” I’m pretty much always positive, always smiling, a glass half full, cheerleader kind of girl. I try not to think ill of anyone and always give the benefit of the doubt…ALWAYS.
I know, you can barf now if you need too. I’ll wait.
Anywho… lately I have been dealing with someone who I just can’t get to like me. Infuriating! Now, I am not naive enough to expect she and I are going to be best pals or anything like that, I just am having a hard time accepting her obvious, shall we say… “lack of enthusiasm” in regards to interacting with me.
The other day we had a conversation on the phone where apparently she was under the impression she was speaking with a different Jennifer. When I corrected her … her voice fell. (!) The enthusiasm was GONE. Long gone. It was so obvious that I almost laughed out loud. Really?! Am I THAT bad?
Can anyone else relate to this situation?
I’ve decided that instead of angsting over her view of me, I will instead use it as a life lesson. Oh sure, I could probably fawn all over her and perhaps earn some small “likability” factor in her mind… but why?
You can’t make everyone happy and you can’t make everyone like you. So why waste your energy trying?
I will continue to be kind to her and accept the fact that we won’t be friends or enemies. We’ll just BE.
You can’t win ‘em all, right?
Twitter: miamimargarita
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totally feel your pain!
Twitter: marymac
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Who is the douchebag? I will totally beat that bitch up for you.
Seriously, though, I am not sure how ANYONE could not like you- you are the most likable person I think I have ever met!! WTH?!
I LIKE YOU!!!
Twitter: lovinstilettos
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YES! My BOSS. My boss has disliked me from day one and it’s so strange because I feel like I’m a likeable person. I do my job (and I do it well) and I’m always early or on time. I work late and do all of the things that a NORMAL boss would love an employee to do. Yet, no matter how hard I try the woman just does not like me. And while I want to not care, it’s tough. Because I feel defeated! I hate that. I can totally relate!
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Twitter: xtremeparnthood
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Just for the record…I squee in delight every time your little twitter avatar shows up on my tweet stream and I think you are awesomely amazing!
So, spill it sister…who’s the wench who needs her knee caps busted?
This is so weird… I almost transferred an old post to my new site about the same thing, but it made me sad/angry/hurt because “said person” still treats me like “the smelly kid in class”.
I think you rock!
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Twitter: amydpp
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I like you. I don’t tend to like a whole bunch of people. I mean, your cheerfulness can be annoying but then so can my bitchiness, so I figure we’re even.
just be you. Truly.
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Twitter: AndreaUpdyke
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Um Yes. Totally relating over here. A friend once told me that when she was venting to her mom about how so and so must not like her, her mom said “sweetie, people don’t think about you that much”. OUCH but so true. Probably said person is so wrapped up in her own life that she doesn’t even know how she is treating others! Hang in there
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Twitter: amelie522
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I’m so sorry! You’re rad and awesome and anyone who doesn’t like you is stupid and not rad or awesome. And yes, I have completely been there. I, too, am one of those people that likes it when people like me. But only if I like them first, because if I don’t like them and they don’t like me, it’s a draw…sometimes. Did that make any sense? I just entered the 3rd trimester over here, so my blood flow is being completely diverted from brain to womb. But to get back to my point, you are wonderful just the way you are. Tell that biatch to screw off. That might be pregnancy hormones again, I’m not sure.
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Twitter: metrodcmom
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I think we all have “that” person in our lives. I try to just shrug and move on. They don’t know what they are missing. ;o)
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Twitter: alfredliveshere
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Okay, I don’t KNOW you and I like you.
What the hell is wrong with her? Witch. And not the good kind.
I have a different and probably less healthy outlook, where I assume people are not going to like me, and then am pleasantly surprised when they do. Sometimes shocked. Is that as weird as it sounds?
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Twitter: kevinbruce
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I really thought you were another Jennifer, sorry. Oh, and I totally talk like a girl when I talk with her- that’s why the awkward silence when I realized it was @mammmania. “oh, crap- she knows it’s me and I talk like a girl!” awkward…
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Twitter: glasbern
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My sister in law despises me. I tickle her kids. I always show up with food at events they host. We invite them over for games. We buy presents. I take photos and get several duplicate copies. I do how I do and I do it because it’s what I would do whether she likes me or not. However, she seriously hates me. Doesn’t return calls. Acts as if I don’t exist at family functions. Talks to me as if I was a child. Still bothers me, but I deal. Her loss.
Twitter: mommywords
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I have a girl like this in my neighborhood and I just don’t get it. I think she is totally freaked by the blogging thing but still – I am SO nice to her. But like you said, I think I am going to attempt to get over it and still give a friendly smile but then let it go. And BTW – I like you!
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What kind of crazy does this girl eat everyday? She must be nutso! Or jealous. Or both. Whatevs…she’s the one missing out on having an enthusiastic person like yourself in her life.
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I thought this blog post was about to go in the wrong direction. But you just kicked it up a few notches, sista!
I love that confident, positive thinking! It is why happy people are happy, and sad faces are sad.
I think TRYING to get someone to like me just defeats the purpose of making friends. It’s almost like I am tricking them into something.
Now I see the same as you… glad we’re on the same wavelength.
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Twitter: 1momof5
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I’ve got a friend that I tried so hard to,well, befriend and after quite a while of really making an effort I realized that for whatever reason she did not want our friendship to happen. I felt similar to to you in that I got the impression that she simply didn’t like me enough to spend time on the phone or in person together. We are now very friendly with one another…as long as I don’t try to push a buddy-buddy relationship. Every time I see her, though, or hear our other friends talk about what they did with her or what they were talking about with her, I honestly do get a twinge of sadness. Really? Why didn’t she like me enough to be my friend??
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