I’m gonna put some thoughts out there because I am trying to decide IF I am way too overprotective of my boys.
But let me back up first. When I was young, wayyyyyy back in the day, I remember my mother letting me and my siblings walk to town. I was 10 or 11 at the time, the oldest of the lot. And we were alone. Crossing fields and following roads. Did I mention that it was five miles?
You are probably shocked right now. And so am I. Especially now that I have my own kids. Of course, that was over 25 years ago.
Truthfully, I can’t decided whether there are more crazy sickos out there now or whether we just hear about them on the news more. No matter. It was a different time and place.
So here is the truth about me and my kids. My boys are 9 and 10 1/2 and I don’t let them ride there bikes alone outside of my immediate cul-de-sac. I don’t let them “sleep over” anywhere unless it is a close relative. I don’t let them go over to people’s houses to play unless I know the family very, very well. (Which amounts to a handful of people.) I don’t let them run free outside of my immediate cul-de-sac and even then I check their location very often.
Here is what I wonder… am I a sucky mom? Does that make me as overprotective as Freddy Benson’s mom? (Sorry, iCarly reference. Hey, it is my life!)
Perhaps. Some say yes.
But then there have been times when I have run up to the store and left the boys in the house for an hour while a went grocery shopping. (Hey, they were watching a movie. INSTANT ZOMBIES.) And my own mom was shocked at that by the way… (Slightly hilarious.)
So where is the balance? I have friends that let their five year olds do sleep overs. I have friends who hire complete strangers to babysit their kids. I have friends who let their kids in the same age ranges go ton of places by themselves.
I wish I knew where the balance was. Am I too overprotective? Am I holding them back?
What do you all think?