My Boys Are Growing Up And I’m Not Sure I Am Ready
There is an emerging trend in my household and I am not sure how to feel about it. Part of me is amused. Part of me is sad. Part of me is frightened to death.
My sons have discovered GIRLS.
A couple of weeks ago I mused about how iCarly had stolen Young Jedi’s heart. At that moment it was funny because he had never had an interest before. In fact, he had repeatedly told me how gross they were. She wasn’t really a threat.
But the mommy gloves are now off. Selena Gomez is now in the picture and he is OBSESSED. Compounded with that is the fact that Tiny Ninja (who is 10) has claimed his long time friend (who shall not be named) is his true love and he is going to marry her.
Both boys are discussing kissing.
And I caught them checking out a naked department store mannequin and giggling obsessively. I’m fairly certain they copped a feel when I wasn’t looking. Oh. My. Lord.
The 10 year old has B.O., the nine year old is kissing pictures of Selena Gomez when he thinks we aren’t looking and both are using the word “hot” to describe females.
WHERE AM I?!!
What happened to those sweet little babies that asked me to marry them and told me I was the prettiest woman in the world? Where are the little toddlers that curled up in my lap and ran their fingers through my hair?
I’ll tell you where they are – watching Selena Gomez and Miranda Cosgrove shake their thing across the television screen.
So what do I do? Hang on for dear life or deal with it and let them find their pre-teen groove?
Currently excited about: Momz Share & Seed!
As a product of desires similar to you own, I urge you to let them grow and learn. You cannot cradle them forever. Protecting them now will only give rise to MORE curiosity ( I mean this in a reasonable way). Sure, it is hard for you to let them go at such a young and tender age, but you must understand that those younglings are not the only one learning in this world. You must also learn and mature as a parent and know when it is best to let nature go about its business.
JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
Reply:
March 16th, 2010 at 10:13 AM
What wonderful advice! I so appreciate it. I was leaning that way but still, my mom heart is kind of breaking.
Twitter: xtremeparnthood
says:
Wow. I have absolutely no constructive advice except to suggest sitting them down and having “the talk” very soon.
You’re an awesome mom…I bet you’ve already done that.
.-= Sunday StiSlwell´s last blog ..My Boys =-.
JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
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March 16th, 2010 at 10:15 AM
Oh you are wrong! No chat yet. They haven’t even gone there yet. But I think it is gonna happen soon…
Oh my. I am NOT going to handle that. Still, I have to agree that Disney has the preteen hottie market covered. They all look like Bratz dolls.
JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
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March 16th, 2010 at 10:15 AM
Bratz look like little hookers to me.
Oh, honey, I feel for you. Mine are now 18 and 11, and I was SOOO happy the 18-year-old had no real interest in girls until high school. The 11-year-old now has a “girlfriend” and won’t believe me no matter how many times I tell him that girls have cooties and he should stay away.
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JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
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March 16th, 2010 at 10:16 AM
Yeah! My first born is so naive but the second one…OMG! He is going to be the death of me!
man are your kids gonna be pissed at you when they get old enough to figure out that you’re BLOGGING about them. (read: soon)
JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
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March 14th, 2010 at 8:50 AM
Actually, they do know that I blog about them. They are gonna hate me for so many other things blogging will just be added to the list! (hehe)
Lesley Reply:
March 14th, 2010 at 10:20 PM
HA! I was thinking the same thing! My daughter thinks it’s cool that I talk about her and post pictures of her.
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Twitter: boxofchocolates
says:
I have nothing to say except good luck and make sure to blog about what you do so I can copy when my son gets there!! I’m scared to death about when that time rolls around. I know you will find the perfect way to handle the situation though.
.-= Mel’s Box of Chocolates´s last blog ..Five Point Friday – Chicken Tortilla Soup =-.
JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
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March 16th, 2010 at 10:17 AM
I am so scared that I am going to mess everything up. But should I leave it to my husband to handle?
I also have two boys 6 ( too close to 7 ) and 11. So far, we haven’t had that epiphany as far as girls go ( I think ). Being Dad I’m not the one that gets my eldest’s confidence. There have been words passed between them hinting at an interest in a certain young lady at school, but I am, so far, out of that loop. I wish you luck on this journey and look forward to sharing what you allow us to share.
Twitter: thejackb
says:
My 5.5 year old daughter is crazy about boys. I am so not ready. Fortunately her 9 year old brother has no interest in girls.
Got a little breathing room, I think.
.-= Jack´s last blog ..The Daddy Blogger Community =-.
JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
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March 16th, 2010 at 10:17 AM
Lucky you! I don’t know which one will be harder to handle – the girl or boy?
Twitter: genxmomblogger
says:
Sorry, no advise, but boy am I going through the same thing right now! Right in the thick of it! How did this happen so fast?!
JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
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March 16th, 2010 at 10:17 AM
I have no idea. Clueless!
Twitter: ManoloBrides
says:
I think letting them discover future their teen selves (albeit a bit early) is all you can do!
.-= Christa´s last blog ..A Weekened Getaway (or Babysitting With the Grandmas) =-.
JennieG
Twitter: mammamania
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March 16th, 2010 at 10:18 AM
Yeah. I think you are right…
Twitter: wearegoodkin
says:
Aw! This post is so touching and sweet. Enjoy them while they are still young!
-adrienne
http://wearegoodkin.com
.-= Adrienne Breaux´s last blog ..Tapestry of the Heart =-.
Twitter: altait
says:
I’m still back here in ‘mummy you’re the best’ land and I like it here. I think, like you, I will need to be dragged kicking and screaming into the Land of Girls. Good luck with it!
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Twitter: mammamania
says:
Oh, don’t think I am not kicking and screaming. Just trying not to let them know it!