I have such a hard time saying no. (Can anyone relate?)
I say yes because it is a once in a lifetime opportunity. I say yes because I want to help people. I say yes because it is in my nature. I say yes because WORLD DOMINATION is part of my master plan. (Natch.) I say yes because I don’t want to disappoint.
I say yes because I don’t realize THE IMPACT that being over committed is going to have on me and my family.
To be perfectly honest, there are many, many times I that I end up regretting that yes.
Which is why lately, I’ve been making some hard choices. Passing up on once-in-a-lifetime opportunities. Turning down requests. In short, trying to streamline my life and my family’s life into something more manageable and less stressful for us.
I shouldn’t wake up in a cold sweat at 5:15 every morning feeling like I’m running behind. It is just not healthy. And it is making me a very grumpy, tired and uninspired girl. (Not to mention mommy, friend, wife, sister, daughter.)
But it is SO VERY HARD to say no.
Interestingly enough, I found an article today written by the Mayo Clinic that talks about this very issue. In it they assert that:
- Saying no isn’t necessarily selfish – When you say no to a new commitment, you’re essentially honoring your existing obligations and ensuring that you’ll be able to devote quality time to them.
- Saying no can allow you to try new things – Just because you’ve always helped plan the company softball tournament or school charity function doesn’t mean that you have to keep doing it forever. Saying no gives you time to pursue other interests.
- Always saying yes isn’t healthy – When you’re overcommitted and under too much stress, you’re more likely to feel run-down and possibly get sick.
Powerful way of thinking, isn’t it?
And a no for now is not always a no forever, right?
So what about you? Do you have a hard time saying no? Are you overcommitted? How do you manage it all?