I Really, Really, Really Wanted To Be Mad At Them

I should have grounded them.

I should have taken away their television privileges or made them clean bathrooms.

I should have banished them to their rooms with piles of unfolded laundry.

Instead I did nothing.

I have no excuse.

Due to an orthodontist appointment scheduled for immediately following school dismissal today, the boys were supposed to be “car riders.” The sole responsibility of the car rider is to wait outside of school for their parent to arrive and wisk them away. Unless you are my child. If you are my child… you forget.

We had a ridiculously hectic schedule necessitating me beginning work this morning at 7am in order to accommodate the juggle of work responsibility vs. parent responsibility vs. household responsibility.  The mom had to work around the window repairman who had to work around the orthodontist who had to work around pharmacist who had to work around the soccer schedule. In order to make it all work, the kids kinda had to show up.

Which they didn’t.

They forgot and took the bus home leaving mom waiting in the parking lot.

For a long time.

Missing the orthodontist.

And the window repairman.

And the pharmacist.

Needless to say, I was hopping mad. I’d only reminded them 14 times before they left for school that morning. I guess I should have gone for 15.

While waiting in the parking lot (ALONE) I received the following text after which my head exploded:

Oh. My. Lord.

I’m not going to lie to you, I was planning punishments. I was daydreaming manual labor tasks all the way home.

That is, until I got a phone call from my sobbing 13 year old. The poor boy was completely devastated because he forgot. He begged me to forgive him.

Did I mention that he was sobbing?

I melted immediately.

How could I possibly punish that child? He was doing a better job then I ever could. In fact, his sincerity and contrition made me love him all the more.

So tonight, instead of scrubbing bathrooms with his toothbrush, he ate ice cream.

Don’t judge me.

4 Responses to "I Really, Really, Really Wanted To Be Mad At Them"

  1. musingsfromme/jill
    musingsfromme/jill 3 years ago .

    Oh my. That happened to me last year. I waited outside the school for about 5 minutes, then called my kid’s phone. Worst possible scenario she had taken the bus home on a day when we had to be at a doctor appt…a doc appt that we are charged $100 for if we miss is. I was furious at her. I wasn’t as nice you and she did get some consequences. But I had to do the unthinkable, I had to lie to the doc’s receptionist to avoid paying the $100. Worse I had to make the call to the doc with my lie while my other kids were in the car. Not a great choice, but we really couldn’t afford the $100, and I didn’t have time to get the kid from a close-by bus stop as I had to get the other kids to the same doctor or risk pay $300 for 3 missed appointments. A colossal mom fail. A lie is never the right choice…never.

  2. Andi of My Beautiful Adventures

    OMG my heart would have completely melted. Can you imagine how nervous he must have been on the bus???

  3. JennieG
    JennieG 3 years ago .

    I didn’t even THINK of that! :( Poor kiddo.

  4. JennieG
    JennieG 3 years ago .

    Oh I soooo understand! $300!!! A hard decision to be sure. Luckily the office didn’t charge me. I told the truth and they rescheduled for the next day. Whew!