I can count on one hand books I would be willing to recommend to friends who are expecting.

Confessions of a Scary Mommy: An Honest and Irreverent Look at Motherhood: The Good, The Bad, and the Scary by Jill Smokler is not only one that I would recommend, it  is one I would wrap up with a pretty little bow and present as a gift. It should be required reading by every new mother.

I consumed it in one sitting and laughed out loud the entire time. (OMG – the chapter on pools is. so. me.) 

Confessions of a Scary Mommy is filled with admissions that we (and by we I mean mothers in general) never say out loud for fear others would judge us as horrible parents. It is outrageous and truthful, witty and irreverent.

A perfect reflection of its author.

Jill’s essays on parenting give women everywhere permission to stop trying to be the ideal mom and instead make peace with their perfectly imperfect selves. (Not to mention find the humor in the insanity that is parenthood!)

I’ve long been a reader of her blog and I must admit, am a frequent contributor to the confessional. (Hey, sometimes we just need to get it off our chests without others judging.)

I got the opportunity to interview Jill recently about “putting it all out there,” how she managed to juggle a book project and raise a family as well as advice  for other bloggers who are hoping to follow in her footsteps.


Be honest, did you ever have reservations of “putting it all out there” with such honesty? Were you (or ARE you) surprised at the response you’ve received?

No, I never really had doubts about it. If I can’t write honestly, then what’s the point? At first, I was completely surprised by the reaction, because I felt so alone in my own life and suddenly seemed to be in such good company. Now, I’m more comforted than anything. Motherhood is HARD. I think we’d all be better off if we just admitted that.


Many bloggers dream of becoming a published author. I’m really interested in hearing how you did it. How did you juggle your family, your website AND writing this book?

The process was painful. I wrote the book in the middle of the night, existed on two hours of sleep and I was a mildly shitty parent for a couple of months. You wanted honesty… right? But, really, it was tough. I’m used to blogging on my own time, for nobody but myself. Dealing with deadlines and edits and pressure is a whole new ballgame for me and far more stress than I’m used to. But, seeing my name on the glossy hardcover did make it all worth it.


What advice do you have for others hoping to follow in your footsteps as a blogger and perhaps author?

Hard work, baby. I’ve worked my ass off for four years to get where I am. (Not literally, though I wish that were the case.) I treated blogging like a full time job years before I made any money simply because I loved it so much. I think the true passion for blogging combined with hard work is the magic combination for success. And, have fun. We’re not curing cancer over here — once it stops being enjoyable, it’s time to reassess.

Disclosure: Jill and I are friends and she provided me an early copy of her book with no strings attached.  All opinions are my own.